Showing posts with label Self-Help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self-Help. Show all posts

Monday, May 29, 2023

Dealing With Low Self Esteem


    Occasionally, we lose self-confidence when we don't feel good about ourselves. The lack of confidence is okay, but it can harm your self-esteem over time if unmanaged.


    Self-esteem pertains to the opinion we give ourselves. We feel more confident when our self-esteem is healthy. We view ourselves positively and handle situations whether challenging or rewarding. On the other hand, we see ourselves negatively. We become critical and doubtful when our self-esteem is low. It affects how we handle situations negatively.

Low Self-Esteem Causes

    Having low self-esteem can develop during childhood. A child who has grown up with parents who constantly criticize his every move can develop low self-esteem. It makes the growing child do everything to live up to his parent's expectations while not learning to handle difficult situations independently. Continuous negative responses to every action a child makes cause him to develop low self-esteem because he will grow up thinking that everything he does is not enough.

Living With Low Self-Esteem

    Living with low self-esteem affects how you make decisions in your life. The feeling that you are not good enough makes it difficult to decide. It’s because your brain automatically gives you the impression that your decision will not please everyone so you will avoid it. Avoiding every challenging situation might make you feel safe and secure however, it can make you doubtful. Negative thoughts may fill your mind making you anxious.

Improving Self-Esteem

    Improving your self-esteem is not difficult if you have the right mindset. There are ways to have healthy self-esteem.

1. Identify Your Strengths
    Counter the negative thoughts and start focusing on your strengths. People with low self-esteem neglect to appreciate their strengths while anticipating negative feedback from other people. Learn to appreciate your talents, skills, and physical appearance to have a more positive outlook in life.

2. Learn to Say No
    Agreeing to something you don’t want is draining. You need to think carefully before agreeing to do something you don’t want to. Learning to say no can be your first step to start giving yourself the importance you deserve. Sometimes, it is necessary to consider your preferences before thinking of other people's opinions about you.

3. Be Yourself
    Stop comparing yourself to others and set a standard of your own. You don't need to follow fashion trends or the style of your coolest friend. Every one has his taste. You can wear your style regardless of others’ opinions as long as it gives you comfort and confidence. Moreover, don’t envy your friends' achievements. Bear in mind that everyone has differences and pacing on his timeline.

4. Reward Yourself
    People with low self-esteem often have negative opinions about themselves. It can be uncomfortable to hear compliments, but accepting simple praises can greatly boost your self-esteem. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. Rewarding yourself with things that can improve your self-esteem is good for your mental health.

5. Be With Positive People
    Be with people who make you feel good and distance yourself from those who always have negative things to say about you. You will feel more empowered when you surround yourself with positive people. It reduces anxiety and stress which can boost your self-esteem.

Sunday, April 30, 2023

Psychological Crutches: Your Emotional Support

    A psychological crutch is an individual whom you can rely on when you are emotionally going through things. The presence of a psychological crutch may make you feel more secure and comfortable.

Physical vs Psychological Crutches.

    Physical crutches aid those who need help. They may have sustained injuries that limit their mobility. In other cases, doctors may have required the use of crutches because of weakened muscles and stiffened bones because of aging.

    Psychological crutches work the same way. It provides you with aid when you needed it emotionally. Even the most physically fit person in the world may sometimes experience heartbreaks, loneliness, and emotional trauma. When this happens, a psychological crutch may soothe things better than anything else.

Psychological Crutches Around You

    Psychological crutches provide a safety net when you are feeling down in times of need. They make you feel safe and supported.

The ones who are the closest to you can become your psychological crutches; your loved ones, friends, and it can be your pet. Just make sure that they are those whom you can trust.

The Effects of Psychological Crutches

    While psychological crutches benefit you for short-term relief of negative emotions, they may not be of help in the long run. Psychological crutches can act as your support group in times of crisis, but they can also induce safety-seeking behaviors which make you avoid anxiety-triggering situations.

    For example, you are more reliant on your friends to assist you in everything that requires doing it by yourself. Psychological crutches can make you dependent on others in the long term instead of being an independent person.

    The problem arises when psychological crutches hinder your self-growth. It may be beneficial in soothing short-term emotional problems but it can also make you practice depending on others and avoiding problems instead of making the right solution.

Seek Professional Help

    If you think you are a person who always requires someone to rely on in every situation. You might need to seek professional help. Try calling an expert near you and plan a consultation.

Dealing With Low Self Esteem

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