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Saturday, May 20, 2023

Is ADHD a mental Illness?

kid with ADHD
    One of the most researched mental disorders has been ADHD (Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder). Neuroimaging and other laboratory tests confirm that a person suffering from the disorder has a different brain function, and it confirms that it is a biological disorder.

Symptoms and Misunderstanding

    ADHD affects millions of children all over the world and it may continue into adulthood if undetected. Children with ADHD may show signs of hyperactivity, short attention span, and impulsive behavior. Unsuspecting parents may misunderstand the behavior of their children which might lead to extreme measures such as hurting their children.

    If a child manifests low self-esteem, poor performance in school, and anxiety, it is better to watch out for other symptoms mentioned above.

ADHD Types

-Inattentive ADHD

    Showing no signs of hyperactivity or impulsive behavior but displays inattentiveness.

-Hyperactive ADHD

    This type shows no signs of inattention but exhibits hyperactivity and impulsive behavior.


    The most common type in which a person exhibits hyperactivity, impulsiveness, and inattention.

Parenting Strategies to Help Children with ADHD

    There is no 100℅ effective cure for ADHD. However, there are ways in which parents can help keep their children diagnosed with ADHD from misbehaving.

1. Praises and Rewards for Good Deeds

    People frequently misunderstand Children with ADHD because of their behavior. 

That’s why they are used to getting yelled at and criticized for everything they do. Here, parents need to focus more on positive deeds than on criticizing misbehaviors.

2. Be Brief and Direct

    Inattention is one symptom of ADHD. Long and wordy instructions would make confusing commands. It is better if you give short specific directions that your child with ADHD could easily follow.

3. Healthy Habits

    Because of their hyperactivity, children with ADHD seem to have more energy to spend. Provide an outlet such as physical exercises and activities that can help them burn out all of that energy positively. Also, give them healthy meals to replenish the used-up body fluids and nutrients during their activities.

4. Give Them A Checklist/Planner

    Establish a routine of activities that the child must accomplish daily. Using checklists and planners helps the child with ADHD do his daily tasks and trains him to be organized in everything he does. Setting up timers for every task makes him aware that he needs to do his tasks in the scheduled time.

5. Building Social Skills and Relationships

    Having a good bonding time with the child promotes strong and healthy relationships. If you have the space and if it is possible, you can host a playdate in your house and invite the kids in your area. This way, it will expose the child to people other than members of your household and improve his social skills.

ADHD and The Society

    People misunderstand people with ADHD and they may perceive them as troublemakers, problematic, lazy, unmotivated, and irresponsible. This is because they are struggling to remember details about the tasks given to them.

ADHD in Adults

    Diagnosed adults with ADHD might experience mixed emotions upon discovering that they have the condition. People sometimes feel relief right after being diagnosed because finally, they can understand what they are feeling. After some time, the feeling of relief might change into anger. The feeling of frustration might sink in while questioning why of all people, you had to undergo such a mental condition.

Your Emotions and Feelings are Normal

    If a specialist diagnosed you with ADHD, reassure yourself that everything that you feel is normal. Find someone to talk with about your emotions and do not be afraid to ask for help. In some places, people with ADHD gather and form support groups for everyone with the same condition. You can try to find support groups and join them. If you cannot find support groups, you can always call for professional help who specializes in ADHD.

Be Selective on Who to Tell

    Dealing with ADHD must be hard especially when you have no one to talk to about your feelings. However, you need to be selective about whom to share your condition. People who do not understand what you are feeling might misunderstand you. They may even say that you are just being dramatic. For this reason, you need to be selective and talk to people whom you know understand what you are undergoing through.

Tuesday, May 16, 2023

Strategies To Deal With Siblings Rivalry

    Rivalries among siblings usually start at the birth of a second child. Siblings' rivalries stem from jealousy, fighting, and competition among them. It may go on throughout the entire childhood and can leave parents preoccupied.

Causes of Sibling Rivalry

    Many things can cause rivalries among siblings. Below are factors that cause sibling rivalry.

1. Self Identity

    Each child has his own unique identity. As a child grows, he will develop a sense of identity. He will discover his talents, interest, and other things that make him different from his siblings. As a result, conflicts and differences among the siblings will develop.

2. Unequal Attention

    Younger children have very different needs than those much older children. The differences in needs cause the parents to divide their attention unequally, attending more to younger children who need constant care than those older children who can already take care of themselves. This can lead to sibling rivalry especially if jealousy takes place. For example, older children might compete with their younger siblings over their mother's attention.

3. Threatened by a New Born

    Welcoming a new member of the family might threaten his sibling of being replaced. The once favorite child might feel like being replaced and taken everything from him. He may show signs of jealousy or envy while trying to be the center of attraction.

4. Developmental Stages

    From a self-centered toddler, a child matures as he grows up as part of his natural developmental stages. While he is undergoing emotional maturity, he might demand more of his parent's attention, competing against his siblings over mommy’s attention. When this happens, rivalries among the siblings might arise.

5. Trying to Get Attention

    Children rarely know how to positively get attention. Sometimes they do things to get attention like picking fights and calling names. Little fights and competition cause sibling rivalry because they try to outshine each other and be the center of attention.

What to Do to Avoid Sibling Rivalry?

    As mentioned above, there are many factors why siblings rival each other. As parents, you can avoid it.

1. Don't Play Favorites

    Favoritism is one of the most common mistakes parents do with their children. If a parent favored a child over his siblings, it will spark jealousy and insecurity that would lead to sibling rivalry. Let the children understand and feel your equal love for them.

2. Avoid Comparison

    Comparing a child to another induce insecurity. If you are one parent who loves to compare his child with other children’s school performance, you need to stop it because you are bombarding your child with insecurities. Accept that each of your children has his strength and weaknesses. Comparing them to one another would not help them get along.

3. Provide Activities That Promote Cooperation

    Cooperation is better than competition among siblings. You can search online or design your own game that requires your kids to cooperate. For example, you can set up a timer, and the children need to clean up before the timer runs out. This way the siblings would cooperate to clean up the toys as fast as they could.

4. Teach Children to Share

    Teaching children to share their belongings is one of the most effective ways to avoid sibling rivalry. Sharing is the exact opposite of being selfish and by doing so, siblings would get along better. It doesn't mean that all toys belong to everyone. The concept of ownership is very important for children. What we want is to teach them the value of sharing while respecting other's possession.

5. Be Fair

    Being fair differs from being equal. Make your children understand each one has different needs, and thus, you cannot treat them equally but fairly. For example, younger children need constant attention than older ones. It is just fair because older children can take care of themselves better than younger ones. There are toys that only older children can play. Make them understand that there are toys that are not suitable for younger children.

Monday, May 8, 2023

How to Deal with Toxic In-Laws

    Living a married life comes with happiness and challenges especially when you are living with your in-laws. If you are happy and having no trouble with your in-laws, you can skip reading this post and move on with your lucky life. However, if you think your in-laws are not treating you well and smashing your good mood every day, then you need to learn a few steps on how to deal with them.

    Toxic in-laws are those who do not know how to set boundaries. They can become over dramatic while trying to antagonize you. Here are the ways how to deal with toxic in-laws:

1. Acknowledge Your Situation

    Sometimes you may be too submissive to your in-laws who tell you what to do or what not to do, and making them happy becomes your subconscious goal. Think carefully and acknowledge your situation. Is there mutual respect between you and your in-laws? You need to determine the line separating your in-laws from being right and being toxic. Discuss matters with your partner and settle things.

2. Avoid Heated Arguments

    Heated arguments might only escalate things unnecessarily. If you think your in-laws are being toxic, you can talk to them as calmly as you could. Try to manage your emotions and if you think your in-laws are not trying to understand the situation and became hostile toward you, try to stay calm and do not engage in a heated argument. You can seek professional help to work on directing your emotions around the situation when the toxicity is unbearable.

3. Focus on Your Well-Being

    Dealing with toxic in-laws is difficult especially when you are trying to change their behavior towards you. Do not change their unfavorable behavior, focus on things that matter like your job, daily tasks, and other things that help you improve. This may sound difficult as toxic people disrupt your focus. Learn to handle your emotions to work around the people who are toxic to you. If it comes to where it became unbearable, talk to your partner about it or anyone you can trust to vent your emotions.

4. Be Respectful

    As hard as it sounds, respecting your in-laws who are not respecting you can save you from an unnecessary never-ending argument. Your in-laws are entitled to their own opinion and so as you but, it does not mean that you allow them to disrespect you. If your in-laws are meddling with your decisions about your private life, treat it as their “suggestions” because you and your partner should direct your own lives. If your in-laws disagree with your decisions, be respectful while letting them understand you can decide.

5. Focus on Your Goals

    Most people who have toxic in-laws have been bound to do what pleasures the in-laws, instead of setting their own goals and working to achieve them. However, you need to understand that you need to set your priorities straight. You have your own family to take care of and provide for their need.

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