Thursday, May 18, 2023

How to Deal With Office Bullies at Work

Office Bullies
Bullies bring themselves up by tearing you down. They exist not only in high school but also in your workplace. It's so depressing to be the best version of yourself but bullies body shame, criticize, boss you around, and make your life full of negativities. No matter how good your day is, they will chip away at your energy. We will discuss five different office bullies and how you will disarm them.

1. Jealous Coworker

    Jealous coworkers are those who are always monitoring your every move because they feel so jealous of you. There are many reasons why people are jealous; Education, good looks, personality, or even when you are your boss' favorite. The danger is that they will try to destroy your wonderful image by spreading gossip, criticizing your work, and in some other cases, humiliating you in front of many.

Dealing With Jealous Coworkers

Always be professional when dealing with jealous coworkers. It is more productive to maintain your focus on tasks that matter instead of wasting your energy on jealous coworkers who do not even add to your productivity. Avoid engaging in office dramas and gossip spread by jealous coworkers. Engaging in these acts consumes a lot of your energy and time which you need to accomplish your daily tasks. The best thing to do is to communicate and discuss your differences. Escalate the matter to the HR department if communicating did not work.

2. Bossy Buddy

These bullies want control over everything. They ignore individual roles and try to be in charge. Often, they don't accept suggestions and their standard is the only basis of right and wrong. It’s challenging to be with a boss buddy. They always act high and mighty as they walk past everyone. What matters is their opinion and they take offense to any other suggestions. Another reason it is hard to get along with a bossy buddy is that they force everyone to follow his lead no matter how impractical it may be.

Dealing With Bossy Buddy

    Bossy colleagues like to be in charge, to where they'd act like your real boss and ask you to do tasks that aren't your responsibility. Call out his behavior when he is giving you a task that you are not required to do. You can respectfully stand your ground in saying, "I understand your point, but I am not sure if you can ask me to do that task since you are not in charge of this project." Doing so will give him a hint that he cannot boss you around especially when he is not in charge. Setting boundaries will help fend off bossy buddies. You can say, "I'd appreciate it if we won’t tell each other what to do. We just need to focus on our individual tasks."

3. The Critical Pessimist

    You spent all night working on a presentation you will show in a meeting. During the meeting, everyone is nodding except for one who constantly gives his unsolicited criticism to every slide you present. What's worst is that those are not constructive feedback but insults. They are critical pessimists. They criticize everything and all they see is negativity. While making even the tiniest error is unforgivable especially when you are presenting to clients, there is a difference between constructive criticism and insult. For example, one can say "Please proofread your documents before sending them to the client to avoid mistakes." Instead of an insult like: "I believe your resume said you graduated from Harvard, yet you cannot construct a decent report." A critical pessimist would rarely praise the good things that you bring to the company, but he focuses on the minor mistakes that you do accidentally and makes the issue bigger than it seems.

Dealing With The Critical Pessimist.

    Foremost, Do Not Retaliate. As hard as it sounds, maintain your composure and if you think you really made a mistake, just hear out what he will say and correct the error. Engaging in a verbal argument with a critical pessimist is not a good idea and could backfire on you. You can turn the tables by praising your critics while you are presenting. You can thank them for 'actively' taking part and listening to your presentation. This will put you in good standing and you'll earn everyone's approval. When the critical pessimist just wanted to steal the show and wanted to humiliate you in front of everyone, Take your time and do not answer immediately until you come up with the best possible answer to his queries. If you think he disrupts your presentation to humiliate you, you can stop him on the spot by saying, "Thank you for your input, may I ask where did you get that information?" If he's unprepared, he'd think twice before disrupting you again.

4. The Snubs

    When you are the new guy in the office, you feel like sailing on uncharted waters. You noticed one of your colleagues and greeted him but he doesn't seem to care and completely ignored you. What's worst is when you raised a totally sensible question, he won't pay attention and won't even look at you. They won't interact with someone who they see as a nobody and doesn't worth paying attention to. They are hard to work with because it's awkward to start communication in which nobody responds.

Dealing With The Snubs

    Everyone has his own story that makes them act as they do. Look at your colleagues from a third-person perspective and observe how they behave. It takes time to get along with others especially when you are the new guy in the office. Probably, they are still getting to know you as you are to them. It usually takes some time to adapt to your new environment. Do not quickly judge your colleagues based on your first impression. After some time, you would soon get along with the others.

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